How to not take dating too seriously
Maybe this leads to a deeper relationship, maybe it doesn’t.
Either way, the interaction is easier and more fun when it is not so intense.
Similarly the desire to project a certain image of yourself onto others – for example one of beauty, brilliance or competence – is another way of trying to control their impressions (which unfortunately doesn’t work).
Start with noticing what you are taking so seriously – and why?!
Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship.
Or, we throw casual dating out the window and expect to marry the first person we date right off the bat. Aristotle said that virtue is the mean between two extremes. Thomas Umstattd wrote a great article in defense of casual dating; he argued that courtship (which made a comeback in Christian culture with the book by Joshua Harris) puts too much pressure on people to marry the first person they court because it’s taken so seriously.
Casual dating offers this mean: men and women go on lots of dates with different people for the purpose of getting to know each other. We reclaim Halloween, which celebrates death, by celebrating the vigil of All Saints Day, or “All Hallows Eve.” Popes have exhorted us to use the media for the glory of God. With casual dating, there’s less temptation, more interaction, more self-awareness and honestly, more fun.
Social networking has made its way into the daily lives of you and I alike.
With apps such as Instagram, it's incredibly easy to get sucked in and, eventually, completely consumed by it.